Saba's tribute to her mamun - Funeral

22^nd July 2005

12pm – East Finchley Cemetery 

My mum was always so caring and selfless. She had time for everyone and treated each person as an equal. The number of people here today is a clear example of the individuals she touched during her life. 

The Persian word for mum is “mamun”. This is what I always called my mum. So please forgive me if is refer to my mum as mamun.

 I would like to thank you all for the kindness you have shown us over the last two nightmare weeks. I do not know how we will ever be able to repay you for all your compassion and generosity.

 My mum’s commitment to us as her family was always expressed in a desire to protect us from pain or hardship. Anyone who knew her will tell you of her amazing ability to cope with any pressure if it meant her family was remained unhurt.

 Mamun never complained of illness or grumbled about a bad day at work.

I will never forget my mum’s determination to make our home the warm and secure place it always was. I thank her for this and hope that in time I can make her proud of me as her daughter. Without her love I would not be able to stand here today in front of you all.

 I would like to begin my tribute to my mamun by reciting a poem entitled ‘As I look back’.

Mamun is poem is for you – I miss you so desperately. And more so with each day that passes.

 As I Look Back.

As I look back over time I find myself wondering .....

Did I remember to thank you enough for all you have done for us?

for all the times you were by our sides to help and support us,

to celebrate our successes,

to understand our problems

and to accept our defeats?

Or for teaching us by your example the value of hard work,

good judgement,

courage and integrity?

I wonder if we ever thanked you for the sacrifices you made, to let us have the very best?
and for the simple things, like laughter,

smiles and times we shared?

If we have forgotten to show our gratitude enough for all the things you did,
we are thanking you now.

And we are hoping you knew all along,
how much you meant to us.

Mamun I am not even a fraction of the women you are. There is no denying this. But I hope one day, with all that you taught me and the memories I have of you, I can grow to be a legacy to your courage and strength.

Mamun nothing will ever be the same without you.

Mamun I can not believe that I will never see you again. I can not believe that all of our dreams for our future have been taken away so suddenly. I still can not believe that all I have is my memories of you.

Mamun there are so many things I want to tell you. So many things I did not get a chance to say to you.

We need you so much and without you it all seems so pointless.

Right now I don’t know how I will be able to live without your unconditional love, support and encouragement.

I have never had to face a challenge without you.

There has not been one struggle I have had to deal with without you telling me I can overcome it.

How will I get through this pain without you?

Everyone keeps telling me that this will get easier.

Maybe it will, but I do not know how. But I do know that the very least I have to do is to make you proud. Manum you did everything to make us happy and I hope I am strong enough to go on without you by my side.

I love you more then I ever had the opportunity to show you.

I miss you mamun.

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