Saba's tribute to her mamun - Remembrance service
 

22^nd July 2005

7pm – Kensington  

I would like to thank you all for coming this evening to celebrate the life of my mamun, Nazy.

Some of you will have attended the burial this morning. This was a very difficult morning for us as her family, and for the entire large group of friends my mum had. I thank you all for your support at this time of much grief and anguish.

We are completely devastated that my mum was taken from us so suddenly and cruelly. I can not see how our loss will serve any purpose.

If mamun was here she would not allow me to be angry at those that have caused us this pain. I am certain that mamun would urge me to try to understand why an individual is driven to such a disgusting action. I will take with me forever her compassion for everyone and her efforts to always put herself in the shoes of another.

I wish to begin this evening by taking about the character of my mamun.

Everyone considers their mum to be special and unique. But I feel that I can hold my head up high and say that my mamun is an amazing person, a great wife and an example mother. I feel genuinely privileged to be able to call her my mum. And for her love I am truly grateful.

Mamun had a character of amazing strength. She was able to protect me and Saeed from all of the struggles that life brought for my parents. Her partnership with my baba was always the foundation of our close family life. Their total devotion to us allowed us to grow and flourish in an environment always free of pain or suffering. I hope that I can grow to show her the importance of this happy childhood as a foundation for the rest of my life.

I cherish all the memories I have of my mamun.

Her passion to issues she considered to be important was always evident.

Mamun’s determination to always make the most of any difficult situation and stay positive is something I would very much like to emulate.

I will never forget the numerous birthday parties my mum organised for myself and Saeed. Mamun would make certain that every detail of our special day was perfect. She would personally see to the decorations, food and entertainment. My mum also had a personal ritual of ensuring that we had a special new outfit for every birthday. I will never forget my mum’s efforts to ensure that day was wonderful. As a consequence of all her care and thoughtfulness – I will treasure every memory of my childhood.

There is no doubt that life for my dad, Saeed and I will never be the same.

We have had the most precious thing in our lives taken away.

We miss my mum so very much. I am constantly being told that I should be strong and that the pain will ease.

Maybe it will.

Nonetheless I know I will miss her forever.

I will miss her support and encouragement through the tough times to come.
I will miss her joy and happiness through the good times.

I will miss out on all the things she was yet to teach me.

I will miss her on my wedding day and at the birth of my children.

Most of all I will miss her beautiful smile every evening at 6.30 when she returned home from a day I work.

I will miss the hug she would give me every night before I went to sleep.

Mamun I hope I told you often enough that you were honestly the best mamun in the world.

Mummy for the privilege of being a part of your short life I will forever feel grateful.

I wish Thursday the 7^th July 2005 could somehow have been very different.

I would do anything to be able to hold you once again.

Mamuneh azizam I will miss you forever.

I love you.

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